Interdependence

Post 12 of 36

 

Commentary

 

Interdependence in politics is best served when people are united in their hearts, minds, and actions. The only way for this unity to be realized is when there is a higher purpose. Interdependence is like a family of true love. When there is true love in the relationship, each party is equal. Participation is balanced. Parties interacting with true love will naturally cede control to each other.

 

 

Interdependence is not independence or dependence. It doesn’t mean one person (or government) can dictate all decisions and it doesn’t mean people can just depend on someone else to do the decision making. Interdependence, along with true love, is taking responsibility and to give from our heart. When there is a good dynamic relationship, there is a smooth circulation of giving and receiving. There is also a vertical connection to a higher common purpose such as a Heavenly Parent, the greater good, ideals, happiness for all, etc.

 

Finding a Higher Purpose

 

When each of our grandchildren was born, I usually spent as much time as I could helping support the family. One of my daughters lived out of state so I spent over a month at her house. The last time I went, her husband’s parents lived with her, so the four grandchildren had two grandmothers around them all day. This is where we see differences in points of view. They were small differences in the grand scheme of things but one day it got to me. I was thinking of my own point of view. My daughter went out to buy a few groceries, so I was holding the three-week-old infant. He was squirming and my nerves were wearing thin already when the seven-year-old boy came storming in right before dinner time from playing with his neighbor friend. I told him he had to eat dinner instead of running off to play again with a couple of protein bars.

 

He didn’t have his usual after school snack, so he easily slid into a hungry boy fit. I felt his other grandmother would let him go play with his snack, but I decided to butt heads with my grandson instead. Besides having to stop playing and eat dinner, I also made him move his bike out of the driveway since his mother would be home any minute. He grudgingly threw it to the grass before his other grandmother went out and lovingly put it away.

 

When my daughter got home with the bread for dinner and groceries to be put away, she needed to nurse the baby right away. Grandma was serving the kids dinner and I started to put the groceries away. Next the almost 3-year-old girl needed help getting the dress she wanted. I kept choosing the wrong one causing a near full on 2-year-old melt down.

 

Feeling a bit frazzled, I came downstairs just in time to see the seven-year-old grabbing his third piece of bread. Now I was on the verge of my own fit! I told my grandson he had to eat his soup too. His other Grandma said he doesn’t like it and she knew he wouldn’t. She asked him what he would like to eat instead. That innocent comment put me over the brink, so I went in my room. I hated this feeling! My mind and heart were so conflicted! I called my other daughter who helped me calm down and see the bigger vision. In this case, loving relationships were more important than proving myself right.

 

The Process of Interdependence

 

In our daily life, we experience different forms of interdependence. It is the same with politics. We want to work together, and we really do care, but our points of views are different. In a family, we can’t break our relationships because of differences of opinions. In politics, we should look at the interdependence as “One [Family] Under God.” Father Moon describes this process:

 

The principle of interdependence is an ideal that pursues the politics of joint participation based on God's true love to realize the ideals of freedom, equality, and happiness. Participating in communal politics serves the purpose of electing representatives. Yet if we understand political units to be an expansion of love-centered family relationships, then antagonistic relationships would not exist among candidates. Their candidacy would be rooted in a calling to serve, and they would be nominated by their constituents, who would relate to them as siblings serving one God as their common Parent.

 

After due process, the final result should be determined in accordance with God's will, in which no improper considerations can be involved. That is to say, it will be a method by which the winner is finally decided through a solemn process of drawing lots with prayer. As the result is determined by God's will and heavenly fortune, everyone would come to accept it with gratitude and joyful hearts.

 

Interdependence means working together and relying on each other. It’s not an attitude of “you are the winner so good luck but I’m going to continue doing my thing in hopes that I’ll be the next winner.” If two brothers, of a family of true love, were running for office their focus would be on what was best for the community.

 

Even if one won an election, chances are that the other brother still has a lot to offer. By working together for the greater good, they can pull together and be more effective. For one, their ideas can combine to create innovative solutions to situations. The support of one to another can give power to the other. The humility of the winner to accept the ideas of the loosing candidate can open the way for others to participate together as well. Plus, the interaction itself generates a power that far exceeds working alone. In the end, no one would feel like a loser. In addition, the projects and initiatives that can improve the lives of others can multiply exponentially.

 

Positive Interdependence

 

My dad and I have different, often opposite, views on religion and politics. A couple of years ago, he was writing a book and asked for feedback as he completed the drafts of each chapter. He has a much greater knowledge of science, so I was often lost in some of his expositions. Sometimes he would simplify it and other times he told me that it isn’t that hard and if I just opened my mind I could understand it.

 

Usually, the second reading was easier to understand. Besides learning from him, by reviewing his chapters, I could stimulate some new areas of thought for him. It was uplifting to share points of view with him and to offer my thought as I believe he gained a lot of perspective from my feedback.

 

During this sharing over his chapters, the topics of a couple of chapters of the book I was writing came up. His response to my chapters inspired me so I shared more. At one point, he asked if I had published my book. I hadn’t so he encouraged me to use his publisher. He set me up with the person running the publishing company and my book, The Life Goals Approach to Education, was printed. This experience working together was not only helpful, but I was empowered by the relationship. We still differ and sometimes even argue about politics. However, it’s heartwarming to know that our love and care for each other is not affected by our different viewpoints. We can still work together and support each other.

 

Contemplation

 

What does interdependence mean to you?

 

What areas in your life would improve with better interdependence?

 

What does interdependence have to do with having a higher purpose?

 

What does interdependence have to do with true love?

 

What experiences have you had with positive interdependence?

 

Does prayer help you with interdependence? If so, how?

 

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Posted by Kathleen Sabo

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Moon, Sun Myung. Cheon Seong Gyeong. 2014. Book 16. Chapter 2. Section 4.2.2

 

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